Little Essays of Love and Virtue by Havelock Ellis
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parents who are sacrificed to their offspring. In our superior human
civilisation, in which quantity ever tends to give place to quality, the higher value of the individual involves an effort to avoid sacrifice which sometimes proves worse than abortive. An avian philosopher would be unlikely to feel called upon to denounce nests as the dark places of the earth, and in laying down our human moral laws we have always to be aware of forgetting the fundamental biological relationship of parent and child to which all such moral laws must conform. To some would-be parents that necessity may seem hard. In such a case it is well for them to remember that there is no need to become parents and that we live in an age when it is not difficult to avoid becoming a parent. The world is not dying for lack of parents. On the contrary we have far too many of them--ignorant parents, silly parents, unwilling parents, undesirable parents--and those who aspire to the high dignity of creating the future race, let them be as few as they will--and perhaps at the present time the fewer the better--must not refuse the responsibilities of that position, its pains as well as its joys. In our human world, as we know, the moral duties laid upon us--the duties in which, if we fail, we become outcasts in our own eyes or in those of others or in both--are of three kinds: the duties to oneself, the duties to the small circle of those we love, and the duties to the larger circle of mankind to which ultimately we belong, since out of it we proceed, and to it we owe all that we are. There are no maxims, there is only an art and a difficult art, to harmonise duties which must often conflict. We have to be true to all the motives that sanctify our lives. To that extent George Eliot's Maggie Tulliver was undoubtedly right. But the renunciation of the Self is not the routine solution of every conflict, any more than is the absolute failure to renounce. In a certain sense the duty towards the self comes before all others, because it is the condition on which |
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