Married Life: its shadows and sunshine by T. S. (Timothy Shay) Arthur
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even a ribbon without there being some fault found with it, as not
possessing the elements of beauty in just arrangements. In company, you would often hear him say--"Oh, my wife has no taste. She would dress like a fright if I did not watch her all the time." Though outwardly passive or concurrent when such things were said, Amanda felt them as unjust, and they wounded her more or less severely, according to the character of the company in which she happened at the time to be; but her self-satisfied husband saw nothing of this. And not even when some one, more plainly spoken than others, would reply to such a remark--"She did not dress like a fright before you were married," did he perceive his presumption and his errors. But passiveness under such a relation does not always permanently remain; it was accompanied from the first by a sense of oppression and injustice, though love kept the feeling subdued. The desire for ruling in any position gains strength by activity. The more the young wife yielded, the more did the husband assume, until at length Amanda felt that she had no will of her own, so to speak. The con- viction of this, when it formed itself in her mind, half involuntarily brought with it an instinctive feeling of resistance. Here was the forming point of antagonism--the beginning of the state of unhappiness foreshadowed from the first. Had Amanda asserted her right to think and act for herself in the early days of her married life, the jar of discord would have been light. It now promised to be most afflicting in its character. The first activity of Amanda's newly forming state showed itself in the doing of certain things to which she was inclined, |
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