conversation consists more in finding it in others," says La
Bruy,re, "than in showing a great deal yourself: he who goes
from your conversation pleased with himself and his own wit,
is perfectly well pleased with you. Most men had rather
please than admire you, and seek less to be instructed,--nay,
delighted,--than to be approved and applauded. The most
delicate pleasure is to please another."

It is certainly proper enough to convince others of your
merits. But the highest idea which you can give a man of your
own penetration, is to be thoroughly impressed with his.

Patience is a social engine, as well as a Christian virtue.
To listen, to wait, and to he wearied are the certain
elements of good fortune.

If there be any foreigner present at a dinner party, or small
evening party, who does not understand the language which is
spoken, good breeding requires that the conversation should
be carried on entirely in his language. Even among your most
intimate friends, never address any one in a language not
understood by all the others. It is as bad as whispering.

Never speak to any one in company about a private affair
which is not understood by others, as asking how _tha_t
matter is coming on, &c. In so doing you indicate your
opinion that the rest are _de trop._ If you wish to make any
such inquiries, always explain to others the business about
which you inquire, if the subject admit of it.